De heetste sekstherapeute op deze planeet geeft je maar al te graag advies tussen de lakens (foto's)

Dr. Cat Meyer is een seks-therapeute met praktijk in Los Angeles. Haar job: koppels die het wat moeilijker hebben tussen de lakens, weer op de rails krijgen. Wij hebben wat twijfels of dat altijd lukt… Want wees nu eerlijk, een man die bij haar op bezoek komt, kan volgens ons toch best wel snel afgeleid zijn!

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LOVE. Your body. Your pleasure. And yet, Sometimes we can be so mean to ourselves. As if mentally speaking in harsh tones ‘motivates’ us to get into ‘doing’ something or reclaiming control. As if to avoid the discomfort or pain of criticism from the external world...and yet we are the harshest ones of all. And it prevents us from coming into our full potential of pleasure, enjoyment, expression. We become more rigid in our body movement. We become more closed in our shoulders. We cover up or place hand or arm around those places we don’t like. We worry & stress about the delicious food that’s passing by our lips. We position ourselves to look skinnier. We tighten up to prevent the ‘O’ face. We turn the lights off. We avoid all together. . . . Fuck that shit. I want pleasure. I want to dance in my seat and make the yum face while I eat. I want to throw my head back in full abandon while waves of ecstasy course through me. I want to wear sexy midriffs and hot bodysuits. I want to dance feverishly amid a crowd. I want to seduce myself in the early morning. I want to make my decisions based on what feels good. And I want to know that I really don’t give a f* what someone says. Because they probably don’t feel good. And I hope for their sake that they someday give themselves permission to. . . If you haven’t experienced the magic of #UndoneYoga we are having our next class Sunday in #DTLA ticket prices go up tomorrow so jump on that! This one we have even more surprises and a cacao ceremony to open our hearts and get us even more inspired. Check it out my sensual little kittens: Undoneyoga.splashthat.com Link in bio. Purrrrr. . . Photo by @intimatelensstudio Model: @doraannette #sexloveyoga_love #yoga #selflove #bodylove #pleasure #unconditionallove #vulnerability #body #passion #surrender #letgo #orgasmic #bliss #movement #breathe #woman #upliftwomen #yogaflow

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 18 Jan 2019 om 9:10 (PST)

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YOGA. 4 ways of trust: trust in self, trust in other, trust in reality/world, & faith. When any one of these is not in place for us, we place greater pressure on the others in order to keep ourselves feeling secure. And this can be felt in the energy you put forth. Wonder why people want to/don’t want to be around you? Inquire about how much trust you place and in which of these? Imagine the resulting energy pull or push or distance as a result of it. Self: means we understand our inner resources & strength to navigate challenges as they appear. We are able to grieve when disappointment arrives and see the lessons for our evolution. Other: we are able to see when we need help and are able to ask for it. We can allow ourselves to rely on another that they have our best intention at heart and will not PURPOSELY do us harm, deceive, betray. And when these occur we are able to grieve and look to reconciliation (if appropriate). Reality/world: knowing the difference btw what we can take action in to change and what we cannot. We resigns. What we cannot and instead look for the gold within the circumstance. Faith:can be a power greater than ourselves in which we rely on for grace and support through matters. The inner goodness, love, enlightened wisdom, equanimity within us all. Some call it God, source, universe, collective—the interconnection between us and all the we learn for ourselves and each other. As you meditate on trust and my last few posts on it, let me know what’s transpiring. Do you see where one sits heavier for you than the others? I’ve really been diving in deep and it’s been influencing the words I choose to speak, the sensation in my body as I interact, the emotions I’ve been noticing. Fuck. May your journey be with more ease & grace. . . Last chance for tickets to Un.done Yoga on Sunday. There’s some experiential learning on trust for ya ladies. ? . Photo @fwdfuture . . #sexloveyoga_yoga #trust #selflove #selftrust #expression #iloveyou #bodylove #forgive #me #vulnerability #emotional #unconditionallove #faith #support #evolve #collective #dtla #undoneyoga #yogagirl #yoga #meditation #mindful #breathe #healthyliving

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 17 Jan 2019 om 10:00 (PST)

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LOVE. I will no longer break my heart to pacify the egos of others. -Tiffany Aurora . . This quote gave me shivers. Does what you are doing respect you? When you put value on yourself, your time, love, energy, so will others. How often do we hold space and compassion and love for another, only to drop ourselves and our experience and our needs and our values in the process. Why? Because we want to believe that our love can hold them and heal them. Because we want to believe that our container for love is capable of holding all their wounding and all their fears and all their insecurities to transmute for them. Because it provides us a role and value. Because it provides us purpose. Because we believe that we are the only one who can. And we want that. Ego. But of course. It’s easier to see our self as the nurturing and steadfast rock for someone. It’s ‘easier’ to focus on them. It’s easier to not pursue our own purpose and work. Until it all breaks. Breaks not our heart, no, but our expectations. We assumed it would look a certain way. And it could not. We assumed they could hold a greater capacity for love. And they could not. We assumed she would solve our internal mess. And she could not. We assumed he could treat us some way. And he could not. We assumed they could receive our love. And they could not. . And now, we sit here, Closer to ourselves then we ever have been before. And we decide that our feelings are worth the listen to. That we have a right to take up space in this world. That we can feel good and base our decisions off of such a notion. . To all my little hearts out there who are experiencing a split right now after the holidays, I hear you and all your messages. Sending love and warm hugs. You’ve got this. Queen vibes. When we dare to trust and respect ourselves we open to true intimacy and love. . . . Photo by @kabirc . . . #sexloveyoga_love #vulnerability #intimacy #emotional #respect #iloveyou #selflove #bodylove #uplift #unconditionallove #iseeyou #queen #woman #reflection #inspiration #quote #quoteoftheday #qotd #blogger

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 8 Jan 2019 om 7:31 (PST)

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LOVE. Death. To put an end to the life of an ideal, a belief, a being, a relationship, an identity, ego, expectation. To cut. To severe the source of sustenance feeding into such. To let go. Allowing to wain. Allowing to wither. Allowing to go. . We can die again and again and again. Only to then have the opportunity of rebirth. For where the stem is cut, a new head can grow back. And this one you can decide of what resonance you’d prefer it to be. What belief would you prefer to hold? What love would you prefer to experience? What image of who you have become would serve you best? . Death can be literal. Death can be figurative. Death can happen silently. Death can be a fierce fight. Death can be a slow process, moving from certainty to questioning to doubt to realization and release. . Death can be soft and quick. Death can be painful. As so often we are gripping tightly to what was. For a time, it served as our truth. And now we are deciding it no longer is. . Grieve. Acknowledging its importance and value as the role it played. So you can really surrender. So you can make space. So you can evolve. And be free. . . . Here’s to the death of 2018 and all the scripts and stories about what we ‘knew’ to be laid to rest, allowing for a full upgrade in alignment with our highest. 2019, we are stepping forward in the best version of ourselves and how we wish to see this world. . What are you allowing to die? . . #sexloveyoga_love #vulnerability #death #ego #letgo #upgrade #lover #iloveyou #selflove #rewrite #story #fear #shame #emotional #beyou #beautiful #authentic #peace #love #bodylove #belief #queen #unfuckwithable

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 1 Jan 2019 om 10:32 (PST)

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LOVE. Last evening I had a really powerful tantric energy session with a fellow practitioner. I felt called to share with you this AM to bring to light what is possible in this bizarre world we live in. Through breath, sound, and movement of the energy up and through my body, I saw images of a past hurt, the story of being left, and the welling of emotion. Sadness. Anger. FUCK YOU. And my whole body started crying, convulsing. I kept breathing, spine undulating in stuck segments, sounding. My friend tapping on different points of my sternum, ribs, throat, forehead. And all of a sudden it shifted, and my whole being took on this presence of ‘I don’t give a fuck.’ Total indifference about shit. Power in my veins. The session continued and I found my spine undulating more freely, breath and sound changing to a deep, guttural voice. And as the session began to close--2 hours later--I settled into the sweetest state of full surrender in my body as a gently smile crept up over my mascara streaked face. And I melted into stillness. . . Fast forward I had a dream in the night of the same scene of past hurt; however, this time I chose to put my pride to the side and let love in (earlier I had been listening to 6lack --check my story today to hear). As a result, any blocks that may have been there before melted and I found myself wrapped in the sweetest embrace of love. Me for them. Them for me. Genuine. Sweet. Overpowering. Love. . And I woke up like this. . Now the task for us in this day, in this upcoming year, is not so much to chase after anyone or anything to prove you’ve cleared it, got love, and got open heart. No. The task is to do this within and allow love & compassion to paint over whatever image you’ve held in your heart. Again. Even if you have before. Again. Because we forget that we are all humans trying to figure out this world and how to be in it. And we replace this forgetting with stories of victimization, hate, injustice, blame, degradation, belittling, pride. Which is the antithesis of love. And we are the ones who experience the visceral and emotional pain of it. With a open, vulnerable, beating heart this morning. All my love, Cat

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 28 Dec 2018 om 8:18 (PST)

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LOVE. Here in Bali I REALLY struggled with feeling ungrounded the first couple of days. Being in the in-between of staying with friends but not, not having a scooter, not knowing where the hell I was or where I needed to be to get the FULLEST experience here. And it was stressing me out. Even though I did the yoga and the meditating, I found myself getting caught in the middle of small decisions and panicking inside that I might make the wrong one. So. Uncomfortable. And then amid whatever was happening around me, I closed my eyes or stepped away from the human group, breathed, and asked myself: “What feels good to do right now?” And an answer would come. And I committed. And I dropped the stories of potential outcomes that did not exist. And I did not apologize. And I did not entertain stories of hurting anyone’s feelings. And I reminded myself of the intention of my trip. And I made the decision to have a great time. And I continued forward creating my life. . . Do you ever find yourself not trusting yourself? Do you ever find an internal buzzing of activity in the body with millions of voices and fantasies of what ‘could be’ causing your to become petrified to make a move? In my last post I wrote about trusting your own feelings. . And last night I did a podcast episode with David Gandelman on the power of meditation/mindfulness in relationships that I cannot WAIT to release to you kittens. He gives us a different image of meditation; one that is an active process in moving through, rather than simply sitting and watching your breath. It’s fun. . These aren’t easy concepts to embody. Believe me, I get it. I get it so hard that that’s why I write to you. Hopefully some of my codes resonate. All my love from Bali, Your Cat . . . #healthylifestyle #meditation #selflove #space #empoweringwomen #iloveyou #bali #ubud #mindfulness #trust #trustyourself #believeinyourself #quiet #reflection #evolve #grow #lesson #life #bliss #createspace #blogger #writer

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 9 Dec 2018 om 7:33 (PST)

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SEX. ‘What makes your yes a yes?’ I use this question and encourage my clients to do the same when asking their partner if they want to do something (as well as ask themselves as a check-in). Why? Because we can so often automatically blurt out ‘yes’ without taking the time to tune inward and see if it actually is something that we desire. Or we say yes because we want to them to be happy. Or we say yes because we don’t want to appear mean by saying no. Or we say yes because technically we can do it, even if it’s not our highest excitement. Or because we feel we are obligated to say yes. Or because we are afraid of what they will think if we say no. Or we don’t have high self worth to feel we can say no. Or we are afraid they will leave us if we don’t say yes. Or we think we are too late and cannot change our mind. Or we are afraid we will be perceived as a pussy, weak, wet blanket, prude, unless we say yes. AND as their partner or potential lover or friend, we wouldn’t want our loved one doing something they don’t actually want to do, right? We want them to be a fuck yes...if it is one. So to ask them what makes their yes a yes allows them the pause and permission to self-inquire: why do I actually want this and do I actually want this? ‘Well, I do...BUT I also am feeling like I want to...’ And there you go. The authentic truth is...whatever it is for you. Sometimes it’s a yes AND, and sometimes it can be a yes BUT, and sometimes we can realize it’s actually a no and we were too afraid to say so. It would be nice if all our yeses meant yes...and yet the reality is actually more complex. We strive for clear communication, yet that can only happen if we create space, check inward, and allow others to do the same. . . . Photo by @yaelm #sexloveyoga_sex #consent #yes #expression #empoweringwomen #empower #uplift #communication #freedom #iloveyou #selflove #reflection #open #talk #relationshipgoals #love #lover #sex #sexualhealth #safe #safesex #truth #wisdom

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 30 Nov 2018 om 3:25 (PST)

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YOGA. Space carved out for the body to move amid the chaotic mess of the living room. Boundaries designated by the extent of the mat sprawled across the hardwood floor. Silence save the deep rhythm of breath, throat constricted, oceanic sound reverberating through. As movement ensues—contract & expand. Pressure, release. Ground & rebound. Open, tight in. The subtle lessons of clarity we only receive once we are quiet, trickle into our consciousness. The how. The why. The elusive solutions we could not reach during the fast and chaotic race of our days. Palm to the earth, weight shifting forward, feet take flight. Hold. The patience we can have— The presence we can develop— The compassion that can ensue— When we flow. . . . Join us December 2 in DTLA as we practice getting intimate with the intelligence of our own body. Un.done yoga. A sensual, slow flowing experience designed to strengthen the relationship we have with our bodies and sensuality in a safe container of women uplifting women. ? Get your early bird ticket today. Link in bio or check out: undoneyoga.splashthat.com . . . Photo by @fwdfuture Studio: @astroeticstudios #sexloveyoga_yoga #mindfulness #movement #yogini #yogagirl #breathe #presence #passion #play #yogamat #yogainspiration #yogaeverydamnday #expansion #sensual #women #selflove #bodylove #iloveyou #joinus #workshop #dtla #yogi #healthyliving

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 10 Nov 2018 om 9:49 (PST)

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LOVE. Spaciousness. Freedom. Openness. Lightness. Expansion. Whole. How do we embody such experiences when we feel nothing but the opposing. By removing the encompassing blame we’ve placed on our partner. By understanding our own role in the creation. By willing to do the work and let go of that which no longer serves. By forgiving. . . What are the stories I’ve been telling myself about the situation? How do these viscerally feel in my body and where? Feel it. Observe. Without judgement or attempt to change. . Am I willing to give up my self inflicted pain? Is this level of suffering necessary? How is it serving me (what’s the secondary gain here)? Do I hang onto my dissatisfactions to get attention and sympathy that I honestly don’t know how any other way? Am I ready to give up resentment and anger as motivating forces in how I act? . What do I feel I have to give up to adopt a more productive view? What power qualities or wisdoms have I gained from this grief/experience? Am I willing to forgive myself for not having the clarity of how to proceed more effectively in the moment? Can I find gratitude for having a new opportunity to shift my patterning and evolve? . . It may be tough. We may not know how. But to have the willingness to do so is all you really need to start. . . . Photo by @yaelm #sexloveyoga_love #insight #reflectiongram #nature #me #naturephotography #expansion #freedom #open #love #selflove #bodylove #mindfulness #meditation #breathe #movement #yogini #yogagirl #powerful #uplift #evolve #learn #qotd #wisdom

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 1 Nov 2018 om 7:54 (PDT)

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LOVE. Stories are what our mind writes in order to make sense of a series of events and the missing holes that exist between them. Are they true? Only if you yourself accept them as such and your reality. Or you can refuse them and consciously decide your own. Back from my own epic saga at Burning Man filled with new insights, loves, lessons, perspectives. One was a reminder that you do not have to hold onto old narratives that don’t serve the image of who you are today, nor do you need to accept another person’s reflection/story about you if it’s not in your highest to receive. How often have you let yourself or someone else tell you that you are ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ or ‘broken’ or ‘attracting emotionally unavailable’ or... Does it benefit you to hold? Sometimes the story can, because it helps you stay in alignment with what you want to be creating. And sometimes it just creates shame, contraction, closure, disjointedness. Remember that people see the world through their own lens created from every experience they have had in this lifetime to make sense of how to operate. This is not the same as yours. So you have the choice to adopt it or give the projection back to them. At the same time own your own projection onto others rather than force it into an unwilling participant. We are all here trying to figure this out and doing the very best that we can. I see you, kitten, and you’re rocking it. . . What were your best lessons at #Burningman ? . . . #letsplay #reflection #sexloveyoga_love #burnergirls #sunset #badass #fullyexpressed #dance #powerful #insight #lucky #iloveyou #iloveme #uplevel #strongwoman #burner #burners #blackrockcity #brc #lover #love #selflove @burnergirls

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 3 Sep 2018 om 3:18 (PDT)

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LOVE. Dear Kitten, I see you. I feel you. I know you. I choose you. Today I saw you step into your power and claim yourself, navigating complexity with as much grace as you could in your little human body. Making space to feel and heal, it cannot be easy. You've discovered your center and asking others to meet you here instead of going out of your way to ensure something happens or someone’s there. You’ve mastered the ability to release the subtle contractions when they pop up, allowing surrender and flow of energy to move through. You’re taking care of yourself and my god how brilliant you have been beaming. I ask that you don’t forget this sensation. I ask that you don’t forget this place. I ask that you remember you can embody love for you again...even when you forget. You are your own beloved. Practice being adored and affectionate of your own vessel and being. I’m sorry I wasn’t always forgiving. I’m sorry I wasn’t always listening. I’m sorry I wasn’t always present or tending to what you needed. Please forgive me. Thank you for always doing your best in whatever form that comes. Ho'oponopono. Love, Cat. . . . How do you speak to yourself? Maybe it’s time we updated that love letter ? Ho'oponopono is a beautiful Hawaiian prayer to ourself meaning: I Love You, I'm Sorry, Forgive Me, Thank You . . . . #sexloveyoga_love #healthyrelationships #selflove #words #loveletter #affirmation #strength #strongwoman #breathe #heal #beautiful #beyou #uplift #love #beloved

Een bericht gedeeld door Dr. Cat Meyer LMFT #88224 (@sexloveyoga) op 25 Jul 2018 om 7:15 (PDT)